For the independent type of woman who tends to live in NYC, there are certain things that are very attractive to us in a man.

While living here, we have seen a lot of different tactics used in an attempt to pick up a girl.

A lot of these tactics are very questionable.

So, from a girl’s perspective, here are some things that you can do to increase your chances to get the girl. 

Listen up! (But for real… girls love good listeners.)

1. Smile

Act like you’re having a good time with her. Also, act like you’re having a good time when you aren’t with her.

It is so true that smiles are contagious. If it looks like you’re having a good time, it’s way more likely that she will have a good time and be attracted to your fun vibe.

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Bonus points if you have dimples. Flaunt it if you got it.

2. Ask her questions about herself, and LISTEN

If you seem interested in her life, that’s a major turn-on.

Everyone loves a person who seems genuinely interested in what they have to say. Remember things that she tells you. Know what her favorite beer is. Know her favorite sport. Bring up something later that you remember her telling you.

I guarantee that she will be super impressed and swoon over it.

3. Be cool

We know what you’re thinking: “Easier said than done.”

We don’t mean you have to be the Fonz. We just mean, sometimes you have to act like this isn’t your first rodeo.

When you seem like you’re not trying so hard, it is way more attractive to a girl. We love the guy who’s hard to get.

Neediness and Aggressiveness is never an attractive trait. So, let's reel it in a little.

4. Wait to text her

Unless she tells you: “text me where you end up later;” wait to text.

When you text a girl seconds after you leave the bar that she is at, it seems a little desperate. Make it seem like you have other things to do.

You’re a guy in high demand. Everyone is trying to hang out with you, right? If not, at least act the part.

5. Don’t show up to a bar on the weekend solo

When she says, “I’m at Supply House. Come if you want.” And you show up 10 minutes later by yourself; it’s alarming. You should always travel with a wingman.

A Wingman is like a real-time Yelp review from a source who has been enjoying the experience. She will be reassured to see that other people enjoy your company and that you have friends.

Also, she’s probably out with her friends too and it’s always fun to join forces.

6. Have her back

Sometimes it’s fun and flirty to give someone a hard time, but if someone else really insults the girl that you’re after, disagree right away.

Nobody likes to be put down, but everyone loves someone who sticks up for them. Be her knight in shining armor.

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You’ve seen Disney movies right? Chicks love that stuff.

7. Don’t ask her how many kids she wants

We hope this one is super obvious.

Most of the women that live in NYC are super independent women that are focused on their career and aren’t actively searching for a relationship. When you ask a loaded question like this, it will freak her out and scare her away.

Ask her what she does for a living, or where she grew up instead. Get to know her before you sneak attack her with those terrifying questions.

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8. Be chivalrous

Open the door for her. Offer your seat to her. Ask her if she needs help carrying something.

Although women are obviously all about gender equality (as we should be), it is still wonderful for someone to offer to do something nice for you.

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Plus, then she has the opportunity to turn the offer down and feel more like the independent woman that she takes so much pride in being.

9. Be nice to bartenders and servers

The way a man treats servers can be very indicative of his personality. It is extremely attractive when a man shows that he was brought up right and has good manners.

Showing respect to others is such a turn-on because it shows they’ll be more likely to respect a woman once in a relationship.

There’s nothing worse than a rude and condescending demeanor. In other words, don’t be a dick.

10. Connect with her

Show her that you are listening by sharing a story of your own relating to something that she has told you. If you can show that you relate to her, she’ll feel closer to you.

It shows that you have things in common, that you’re listening to her, and that you can keep a conversation going. It also shows that you’re empathetic and aware of others feelings, which is a solid trait for a potential suitor to have.

11. Don’t be a follower

Make sure you know some cool places to go in the city.

Be able to give great suggestions, but also don’t act like the spots you go are better than the one’s that she likes.

No one likes a one-upper. But, it will impress her if you know your way around the city.

12. Don’t lie

Really? You played Football at Columbia? You know I have access to the Internet and can find out that you’re lying by Googling that shit, right? (As if your 5’6” frame didn’t already give it away).

Just be straight up and tell me that you played intramural sports in college. More girls will be able to relate to that anyways.

Who would want to knowingly date a liar? We’ve all dated them by accident and guess what? It didn’t go well…

13. Don't brag about yourself

Don't get us wrong, confidence is great. But, let your personality talk for itself.

If you feel the need to brag about how much money you make, where your apartment is, or how athletic you are; we will think that you're compensating for something.

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This is also where your wingman comes in clutch. If your buddy mentions how great you are at something while you modestly toss it to the side, there aren't many things that are more attractive.

The wingman coming in clutch once again!

14. Laugh at her jokes

We’ll laugh at yours if you laugh at ours. It’s just the right thing to do.

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[via Escomotu]