Cuddle Buddy Needed: 6 Best Secrets of Finding Someone to Cuddle with This Winter in NYC

Since winter has (finally) arrived, it's time to think about finding someone to build a couch fort with, and cuddle the living hell out of you from the cozy depths of your apartment. 

You might not need someone to cuddle with necessarily, but who doesn't like to snuggle up to someone when they don't feel like braving the blizzards and going out for the night?

So if you feel like scoping out someone who can supply some much-needed body heat, and knows how to spoon really well, feel free to follow these tips. 

1. Look in your own neighborhood

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The last thing anyone wants to do is schlep all the way across the city through wind, snow, and winter mix. The best thing to do if you’re looking for someone to cuddle up with for some binge-watching, back rubs, or, well, a night of sleeping (or not sleeping) is to look around your own neighborhood.


You life is going to be a whole lot easier if you don’t have to constantly battle the winter weather in order to see your cuddle-friend. Less icicle hair, more time under a blanket.

2. Try not to be flaky

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We know what you need, and it is a cuddle-buddy you can rely on. Just remember, you reap what you sow, and when it comes to finding someone cute to keep you warm, this could not be more true.

You might not have to show up with (or expect) flowers and chocolate, but showing that you’re good for your word will make you look even better than your collection of little pillows and your down comforter do.

3. Test out all the hot toddies in the city

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Now, while this is a more than worthwhile venture to take purely for the joy of it, it is also a great way to meet people. Nothing brings two people together like a quality winter cocktail.

Sipping a hot beverage and looking pensively out the foggy bar window will make you look mysterious, calm, and cuddle-able. Like a drama-free individual who can enjoy the warmer things in life. 


Try out the places in our own neighborhood first to see which delicious toddies you’ve been overlooking, and to be friendlier with your locals.

Even if you don’t end up meeting anyone new, you’ll have a good drink to keep you warm.


4. Take your Tinder date somewhere cozy (that isn’t your apartment)

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So you’ve tested out some hot toddies, given your local some love, and the time has come to take your date somewhere cozy. 

Ideally said place will have a fireplace, friendly employees, hot food and/or drinks, comfortable couches you can sink into, and preferably a few kittens or puppies wandering around.


As cozy as your apartment may be, a change of scenery is always a good idea. And this way, there’s no pressure one way or another to spend the night if your date ends up being less cuddly than you had hoped.

5. Let your friends be your wing-(wo)men

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If your friends see someone promising across the room, then why not just let them go with it? No one else is better at talking you up and making you look like an angel sent from the cuddle gods.

So just let your men and/or women wing. Feel free to stand there prettily and nod along to all the praises coming your way. If nothing else, it’ll give you the confidence you need to go ahead and make the leap yourself.

6. Relax, and be relaxing

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Try not to let yourself get too tightly-wound. If you want someone to relax and snuggle up with, then first of all you need to make sure you yourself are capable of decompressing at the end of the day.

And beyond being good for your own well-being, if you’re calm and collected, people will pick up on it instantly. 


They won’t be able to help but imagine how nice in would be to kick back and relax with you somewhere warm and soothing.

Also, candles never hurt. We recommend something hot toddy-scented.

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