6 Struggles of Dealing With Valentine's Day in NYC

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Everyone knows it's way too typical of millennials in the millennial dating scene to avoid labeling a hookup for as long as possible.

Are we afraid of vulnerability? Probably. Do we enjoy reaping the benefits of a relationship without the pressures of commitment? Definitely.

No matter what factors pushed millennials into this situation, the reality is that we're here. Plenty of us have someone on our speed dial for when we want to cuddle or hook up, or when we're drunk and it's Saturday night.

The problem? Valentine's Day is a day that's designed for couples. Everyone does romantic stuff like buy each other flowers and eat out at restaurants. 

So, if you're in a hookup in which you haven't yet had the "what are we?" conversation, handling Valentine's Day might be difficult. Read on to learn about the struggles you probably know all too well.

1. Making plans

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Texting someone saying, "Hey, want to hang out on Saturday?" becomes a much more turbulent situation when that Saturday is the Saturday of Valentine's weekend.

This is where the struggle lives. Do you just pretend it isn't Valentine's Day and ask your hookup to hang out as though it's any other weekend?

Or do you completely avoid texting your hookup all weekend, possibly sending the message that you aren't interested in anything romantic at all?

Most of all, you definitely get irritated with yourself for stressing so much about this particular struggle.

2. Buying presents

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If you do wind up hanging out with your hookup during Valentine's weekend, the question of what to buy them will hang ominously above both your heads all weekend.

We're generally against clichรฉd ideas like red roses and candy if you're in an undefined situation. Unoriginality is not your friend here.

The best move is to do something funny, like buying the other their favorite type of chips or alcohol. That'll prove that you know the person well and care, but that you're not necessarily putting any romantic pressure on what's happening.

3. Telling your parents

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Your parents want to know what you Valentine's day plans are. Let's just assume you're entrenched in your hook up enough that you're hanging out on Valentine's Day, but not deep enough that you're ready to tell your family you're in a relationship.

Still, your parents will call and say, "What are you doing for Valentine's day?"

Of course, you can't answer honestly. You can't stay, "Just hooking up with someone, but there aren't strings attached!" 

The question is, should you lie and say you're hanging out with your friends? Or instead exaggerate the extent of your hook up's potential? 

Either way, the struggle is vexing.