It's Gettin' Serious: 9 Telltale Signs Your Hookup is More Than Just a Hookup

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So you’ve been hooking up for several months. Maybe two, maybe three, and you’ve hooked up. Maybe it was even good.

So how do you know if this "friendship" is heading anywhere besides an awkward conversation about how someone isn’t looking for anything serious?

How do you really tell if your hookup is looking for something serious? Well, here are 9 telltale signs your hookup is more than just a hookup.


1. He’s willing to re-watch a pilot for a series he’s already two seasons into

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If he’s on season four of Game of Thrones, and he wants to watch the pilot with you, it isn’t because he’s so hype about this upcoming season (the hype is so real).

It’s because he wants you to like what he likes. And he wants to be able to talk to you about it. No one wants to rewatch a pilot with someone they don’t care about, especially because of the potential vulnerability and scrutiny associated with showing someone your favorite show.


2. His friends have heard of you

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The fact that you’re meeting his friends isn’t a sign in itself-- it makes sense that you and a few of your friends would meet up with him and his friends around last call on a Saturday.

But if his friends say something that gives it away that he’s been talking about you like, “Oh man, Mark said you’d wear that hat,” or “Mark said you love chugging Bud Lights,” that probably means you’re in. You should wait for the guy that talks about you to his friends.

Actually, better yet, you should wait for the guy that talks about you to strangers.


3. He remembers stuff about you

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Like, you’re about to order pizza and he says, “You like buffalo chicken pizza, right?” Or he texts you to come over and says, “I’m wearing that cologne you like.”

Or, when he buys you a drink, he remembers what your favorite beer is. If he remembers details about you, it means you’re sticking in his mind. Which means he probably likes you.

If he didn’t like you, he wouldn’t be worried about remembering things about you. He’d just be worried about his you-know-what.


4. You hangout without drinking

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Did you hang out sober? Did you do it sober? Was it good? You’re either great friends with benefits, or something is developing here. Who wants to hang out with someone they don’t like sober?

The answer is no one, obviously. If I were to hang out with someone I wasn’t interested in ultimately pursuing something romantic with, I would make sure there was alcohol involved.


5. He orders your favorite food

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... Before you get there. It’s one thing to have hookup one night and then be like, oh... we forgot to eat dinner!

It’s another thing completely if he already has the food waiting when you get there. If he already ordered by the time you arrived, it means a couple things.

One, like I said, he’s remembering things about you. Two, he was looking forward to / excited for your arrival. Which is why he took steps to prepare for it. And three, he wants to make you happy.

And I know no better way to make a girl happy than food.

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