Carrie and Stanford, Will and Grace, Damien and Janice, Charlotte and Anthony... the bonds are unbreakable.
When people ask if I have a boyfriend, I tell them: “Yes, I have three.” Because I do. One straight boyfriend and two gay boyfriends (GBFs). I'm lucky to have two GBFs and they honestly complete my world.
I totally don't want to put all gay men into one category here and I don't want to stereotype, but I don't think I could do that if I tried.
I have as many gay friends as I do straight friends; they are completely unique and with differentiating characters-- exactly the same as my girlfriends.
For instance, one friend is a ball of sass and another friend is a cool handsome dude that girls hit on, and the rest are all that's in between.
I adore my girlfriends to the end and love what I have with them, but I can't get over the uniqueness of the relationship between me and my gay boyfriends. So I thought I'd write a sassy lil' list to note why they add such great value to my life in New York City.
They give me the best advice
Whenever something bad happens or I'm crying in a bathroom with a bottle of gin (kidding), these boys are always there to listen, support me, drink the gin with me and offer me the best advice they can-- which always seems to be eye-opening.
Regardless of what I confide in them about, I never feel judged or ashamed, just endlessly loved and cared for, the same I do for them.
They don't take themselves too seriously
Gay bars, straight clubs, dive bars, brunches, festivals or even a night-in with a bottle of wine is something you know you're going to spend doubled over laughing.
As they don't take themselves too seriously, all of my gay friends act a little outrageous and say things that make me wonder why they're not starring in their own TV show on Bravo.
They keep me grounded
If any friend is going to set me straight, it's them. When I go a bit nuts and irrational, and then start to overanalyze things (as some of us girls oftentimes do), they are the ones to shake me.
To be honest, they do a far better job at this than my girlfriends do. In my opinion, GBFs have the mind of a male, but it's their energy that's feminine. That's what makes these guys the best advice givers.
They make a beautiful +1
I love bringing my GBFs to events and parties.
First of all, because I love their company.
Secondly, because not only do they know how to have a great time, but these boys are social butterflies who are bound to make some new friends. Not to mention they can become your boyfriend in a nanosecond if some slopster is trying to hit on you at the bar.
,They love me for me
Gay men give women the attention that a straight man can't give her. A straight man will hit on a woman because he likes what he sees and wants to see it in bed (and that's no secret).
Gay men evidently aren't interested in how much you might look like Adriana Lima, but they appreciate and admire your personality the way a straight man wouldn't.
The bond we have is because of inner beauty, and that's something special.
They know how to dress
They always know how to look presentable, regardless of how different their styles are. One of my GBFs is very casual chic in his black sweaters and black jeans, and the other is more of a trendy drop crotch kid with a snapback.
They both always take pride in their appearance and always look presentable and gorgeous, because they believe in the importance of appearance, like every man should.
They keep me young
I feel like my GBFs are more up-to-date on pop culture than me, my other friends, and even my 19-year-old sister. You know, they're forever introducing me to the newest songs, the hottest new TV shows, what's good on Netflix, or the latest viral video.
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