10 Empowering Beliefs that Will Lead You to Succeed in NYC

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Success in New York, and really anywhere, always starts with a good state of mind. If you have a positive outlook, a great attitude, and a belief that you can accomplish anything, you’re already within reach of your goals.

[via Sergey Semenov]

 Sometimes, however, we all need a little bit of encouragement to inspire us. These 10 empowering beliefs below may be just the encouragement you need to succeed in NYC.

1. You are responsible for the life you create

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves.

The process never ends until we die.

And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility” - Eleanor Roosevelt

Many people are drawn to New York because they are infatuated with the idea that they are going to “find themselves” here. The simple notion that is often easy to forget is that you are actually here to create yourself.

You are responsible for the life you make. You have the freedom to make choices and go after what you want—an advantage that not everyone in this world has.

While everything may be meant to happen for a reason, it won’t happen without a bit of help on your end. A candle is meant to burn, but it won’t do so if you don’t light the match.

2. You have to learn to let go of things that don’t benefit you

"I’ve learned that you can’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw some things back.” –Maya Angelou

Life will present you with many opportunities, and you may feel overwhelmed at times to take on all of them. Being in such a vibrant and fast-paced city like NYC, you’ll probably experience this frequently.

You must learn to choose the things that are most important to you and will benefit you the most. You can’t accept or hold onto things that don’t add value to your life. You need to be brave enough to either say no or let go.

3. You must work on changing your perspective

“People do not seem to realize that their opinion of the world is also a confession of character.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson

Your opinion of the world really does say a lot about your character and outlook on life. How you react to situations-- especially tough ones-- distinguishes the pessimists from the optimists.

NYC can easily sway you to become more cynical, so you must decide if you are going to be the person who tends to see everything from a negative light or the one who tries to see hope and solutions.

4. You need to accept that not everyone is going to like you-- and that’s ok

“You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” -Dita Von Teese

Not everyone is going to like you—whether they have a valid reason for it or not. If you exhaust all of your energy trying to get every person you encounter in NYC to like you, you’ll be wasting a lot of time.

People’s personalities are just as diverse as NYC’s population, and not all of these personalities are going to mesh well. Instead of investing too much mental energy into trying to figure out why some people don’t like you, accept that it’s probably not always something personal.

5. You should always strive to grow by learning from those who are smarter and wiser than you

“If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room.” –Anonymous

Whether it is work or school, know when it’s time to move on from a class that’s too easy or a job position you’ve already mastered. If your colleagues or classmates aren’t stimulating you anymore, maybe it’s time for a change.

Don’t hold yourself back if you ever find that you aren’t learning anything new from the people around you. There will always be people out there who are smarter than you, and you should strive to surround yourself with them to learn and grow.